That is the summit. Savor it.

But when it’s 10 p.m. and you crawl into bed like two old people and tell each other about the weird things that your kids said that day and laugh and tell stupid jokes and giggle and then maybe you feel like making out or maybe you just feel like playing a quick game of Candy Crush, all the while saying things like, “This game is stupid, it sucks” and “Your feet are freezing” and “My ass hurts,” that’s romantic. Because at some point, let’s be honest, death supplies the suspense. How long can this glorious thing last? your eyes sometimes seem to ask each other. You, for one, really hope this lasts a whole hell of a lot longer. You savor the repetitive, deliciously mundane rhythms of survival, and you want to keep surviving. You want to muddle through the messiness of life together as long as you possibly can. That is the summit. Savor it. That is the very definition of romance.

What Romance Means After Ten Years of Marriage

2. Freedom

2 years, 2 months and 2 days ago I began slowly paying off over $14,000 in debt. That number doesn't even seem real to me. It was real though, a combination of medical bills, credit cards & payday loans. And shame, lots & lots of shame.

Meeting Adam helped motivate me to look at  the debt unflinchingly, & acknowledge it without the shame. I started paying it off bit by bit. I knew I wanted it all paid off before we got married. Tonight we drove to Boulder to pay the last $82 to the library, & just like that I'm debt free.

"Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report written on birds that he'd had three months to write, which was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books about birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him put his arm around my brother's shoulder, and said, "Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird." - Anne Lamott

1- Let's begin

A new to me blogger/Internet person, who also may be getting a show on HGTV, writes a short post every day. Nothing crazy, just a few lines about her day, about recognizing the struggles and also the things to be grateful for - sometimes those are the same.

Well, I like that idea a lot, & I'm going to try to do the same during my lunch at work while I stare out my window at the city of Denver and shovel in last night's leftovers.

Yesterday:
I woke up too late and it led to a frazzled morning. It has taken me 31 years to realize I need at least 30 minutes in the morning dedicated to staring blankly at nothing while drinking coffee.

My Dad used to do this too, I remember. I always felt like I was intruding on something special of his if, I woke up early, & interrupted his quiet ritual. His eyes would be half open, and his voice deeper than usual.

Last night Adam and I rallied for a short more walk than run around our neighborhood. It was fun to be gasping next to him as we ran (shuffled) down our quiet neighborhood streets.  For dinner we had an unexpectedly delicious sausage & bean stew.

I woke up early today and drank coffee while Charlie snored next to me on the couch.

This Will Be Our Year - a hope and prayer for 2016

“There are years that ask questions and years that answer.”

2015 was a year for asking questions - where are we going, are we happy in Denver, am I happy in this job, do you want to get married (!)? 

2016 is for answering a few of those I think. I won't get all the answers but I think I'll be on the right path to a few of them.  The best part though is that regardless of if I feel confused as to what direction I'm heading in, I also feel at home, as long as Adam is with me.  Home for me was never a place, since we moved so much.  Meeting and being in a relationship with Adam has helped me to realize I was missing that sense of home for a very long time.  He brought that back to me. 

I knew 2015 was going to be one of those in-between years, and 2016 feels like I am about to jump into the deep end of the pool.  When I was single and wanted to find love and meet "the person" I would tell myself that it was okay to be lonely and okay to be alone because there was some magic in not knowing the end of the story yet, not knowing how it would all work out.  You know, I was totally right. That was kind of special.  What I didn't know though, was that the story would be better than I could have ever imagined it. That I would actually meet someone so absolutely well suited for me and me for him. 2016 will be a celebration of our story continuing on into the next part of our life together. 

This fall I talked to a couple mystical types of people - while I was asking questions about jobs and my calling, they kept redirecting my attention to family and love.  They told me the career questions will be answered later, for now my focus should be on building my family with Adam and finding our home (physical/metaphorical). 

There have been years where I accomplished more (ran a half-marathon) and years where I was so terribly lost in the darkness of depression and 2015 was neither of those.  2015 was a year to build a foundation for myself and for my relationship with Adam. 

I feel as if I am at the door and looking out at a huge landscape of all that is to come.  Like I didn't know the rest of my story before I met Adam, there is so much more of our story left. I am holding those parts tucked deeply in my heart. I've learned to try and let myself be surprised by joy. 

I'm awake, I am here, and it feels good. 

lack of color

If you feel discouraged
That there's a lack of color here
Please don't worry lover
It's really bursting at the seams

This is fact not fiction
For the first time in years

You Know I Dreamed About You for 29 Years

I wanna hurry home to you

Put on a slow, dumb show for you and crack you up

So you can put a blue ribbon on my brain

God I'm very, very frightening, I'll overdo it



You know I dreamed about you

For 29 years before I saw you

You know I dreamed about you

I missed you for, for 29 years